Most, if not all, women with relaxed hair have had that moment of “what if?” My main logic behind relaxing my hair was generally to have hair that ‘blew in the wind’. I was a teenager, don’t ask. Safe to say I was not entirely satisfied because my freshly relaxed hair was bone straight and lacked that ‘natural bounce’ that I saw on the pretty girls on TV.
Then I turned 21. And that question came up too frequently to ignore. And it came loaded with “Why did I want to relax my hair in the first place?” “Will it grow back if I cut it?” “Everyone will hate it” “I won’t be able to maintain it” “I WILL LOOK LIKE A BOY!!!” In hindsight, all these concerns were a representation of the ideal of beauty that I was conditioned to believe over the years.
Honey, let me save you some time and trouble with the following statement: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Your beauty is so much more than your hair, skin and nails. It’s in your courage, your grit, your pain, your wit and your resilience in the struggle.
So instead of asking, “What If I Went Natural?” ask “What If I Became Authentic?” I believe that was what was nagging me deep down when I had that urge to transition to natural hair. And that came with a complete overhaul of the products I used, the content I consumed and the way I treated myself. The world around just…had to adjust.